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Edmond Lau
Co-Founder at Co Leadership, Author of The Effective Engineer
Edmond Lau is a highly knowledgeable individual who specializes in teaching high-potential engineers and engineering leaders the necessary skills, frameworks, and mindsets to maximize their impact.
He has conducted insightful interviews with engineering professionals from top tech companies such as Google, Facebook, Twitter, and more, to gather valuable lessons and strategies which he has compiled into his book, The Effective Engineer.
With over a decade of experience in the industry, Edmond has focused on building consumer-facing products, user growth, building engineering teams, and scaling real-time systems.
He shares his wealth of professional and engineering insights on his blog, offering guidance and lessons to aspiring engineers and leaders.
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People say that being a new parent is hard. And it’s not that it’s not hard.
The nights of interrupted sleep, the few moments of delirium, the three days where my wife and I had long relational ruptures from the strain — they’ve been hard, for sure.
But as my daughter turns one month today, I realize there’s also a new parent story that I haven’t been told by parents before me, that I’m starting to discover. A story that shatters conventional narratives and reveals magic.
It’s the story of how in one month:
- I feel more connected to my friends and community than I’ve ever felt. Rather than creating isolation and loneliness, a baby has actually magnetized more care, love, and support into our home.
- I feel more love and attraction for my wife than ever before. Rather than losing our connection, a baby has only deepened my sense of devotion and divine union.
- I feel more connected and at ease with my mom, who’s living with us for two weeks, than I could’ve imagined.
- I’m experiencing a newfound simplicity and presence in life. Rather than making life more complex, a baby is actually helping to focus energy on what’s important.
- And surprisingly, I’m actually feeling more grounded freedom as a father than before. Rather than feeling trapped, I’m finding more space in the simplicity of life to notice and catch the subtle and invisible patterns that once trapped me.
When I zoom out to the big picture, the hard moments seem more like blips in the overall terrain of the month.
The new parent story that we’re creating seems so different than the story I’ve been told. I can’t help but wonder if we’re pioneering a new way of parenting — or at least rediscovering how humans were meant to raise children all along.
Read the full reflection and tribute to my first month of fatherhood:
