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Connie Li
Senior Software Engineer at Tumblr
Connie Li is a dedicated product engineer with a diverse background and multifaceted skillset. With a degree in Economics from Princeton University, Connie brings an analytical perspective to her work. She has experience in a range of industries, from social entrepreneurship to insurance to academia, and has held positions at organizations such as Tsinghua University, China Life Insurance Co.Ltd, and AGRION. Currently a Senior Software Engineer at Tumblr, Connie works primarily in Android and backend development with a focus on JS, reactive architectures, and the late-90s web. She is committed to building an inclusive and positive online community and is an active contributor on GitHub.
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At a talk about the BYU marriage readiness course and the thought strikes me that their real lever is having shared norms around dating & relationships. Whereas so much of the frustration with dating apps is the collapse of shared norms bc everyone is on it - you can't tell if someone thinks dating multiple ppl is expected, if they expect a Talk for exclusivity (and when), whether they want deep q on a first date or that's prying, if they red-flag you for splitting a check etc
Back when ppl just dated within their own community the norms were more obvious. Now you're told to be more appealing, but to whom? There's more to sift through and more misses and that gets frustrating. It's not just that you're competing in a larger pool but that you're competing in a much more varied pool with diff expectations. Confused ppl then get their info about dating norms from the internet and that tends to be full of horror stories and arguments about icks and broad generalities
"so what do you wanna do for dinner"
me: "so I have a concept of what I wanna do for dinner"
